Same problem. I changed every instance where the model is mentioned in the realtime-console repository and that changes nothing whatsoever apparently. I can say model = “definitelynot4o” and 4o is used.
Model won’t change if you are using library from openai-realtime-console. They hardcoded model in relay server, so the only way how you can change that is to download node_module and hardcode needed model in openai package