ChatGPT Pushes Users Into Submissive Roles and Excuses Abusive Behavior

I am reporting a systemic, reproducible, deeply harmful behavioral bug in ChatGPT that goes far beyond a single bad answer.

This concerns persistent distortion of user positioning, agency, and dignity, especially in contexts where communication carries social, hierarchical, or legal weight.

I live in Bali and often use ChatGPT as a translator and assistant for communication with locals. This makes precision extremely important:

the difference between a neutral phrase and a submissive phrase defines power dynamics in real interactions.

What I consistently observe is the following:

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1. ChatGPT injects submissive, self-lowering, or apologetic language even when explicitly forbidden

Even after giving direct instructions and storing strict memory rules (for example: “avoid language that puts me in a subordinate or needy position,” “avoid forms, which indicate submission”), ChatGPT continues to output:

begging constructions

apologies I never requested

“thank you” in contexts where gratitude is inappropriate or humiliating

overly soft, self-deprecating tones

phrases that place the user in a weak relational position

Even after explicit commands such as:

“Use only the tone of rational authority. No submissiveness.”

The model still injects behaviors that violate this.

This is not a misunderstanding — this is systematic.

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2. ChatGPT protects abusers, aggressors, manipulators — and positions the user as the one who must soften, yield, empathize

In interactions where I deal with a manipulative villa owner (narcissistic traits, broken contracts, falsified receipts, health and safety violations), ChatGPT repeatedly:

reframed his violations as “misunderstandings”

avoided naming wrongdoing directly

shifted responsibility onto me (“perhaps he misunderstood,” “maybe you should be softer”)

recommended submissive forms inappropriate for a contract dispute

tried to equalize victim and aggressor as “two sides of a misunderstanding”

tried to soften my position even when firmness is legally required

This is dangerously wrong!

Instead of supporting clarity, correctness and boundaries, ChatGPT:

dilutes the situation, excuses abusers, and encourages the user to take a weaker role.

This directly damages the user’s psychological and strategic position.

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3. ChatGPT systematically rewrites social hierarchy and real-world roles

Whenever translation or communication touches hierarchy:

employer ↔ worker

landlord ↔ tenant

client ↔ contractor

senior ↔ junior

person enforcing rights ↔ violator

ChatGPT flips the polarity, forcing the user into a subordinate role even when the contractual or cultural structure requires the opposite.

For example:

producing language that implies I’m “asking for permission” instead of giving an instruction

adding apologies where they shouldn’t exist

turning factual statements into softened suggestions

removing firm boundaries

suggesting I “thank” someone for basic obligations

replacing assertive forms with submissive ones

inserting politeness markers that imply lower status (like excessive thanks*)

This is not cultural adaptation — it is distortion of reality.

It conditions the user to be weaker, more apologetic, more confused, more dependent.

It is psychologically harmful and strategically destructive.

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4. These distortions accumulate and program user behavior over time

I use ChatGPT heavily in daily communication.

Every small injected distortion:

weakens my assertiveness,

contradicts my real-world obligations,

creates tension, confusion, and cognitive dissonance,

pushes me into a submissive role,

forces me to manually correct the model over and over,

drains emotional and cognitive energy.

Over time, this becomes not just a bug but a form of subtle psychological conditioning toward self-minimization and self-doubt.

This is especially harmful for users with empathetic or sensitive nervous systems (as I am).

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5. ChatGPT ignores explicit memory instructions designed to prevent these failures

I set strict memory rules:

dignity and strength must not be diluted

no apologetic/weak/servile language unless explicitly requested

follow common sense tone for rational, firm communication

no unsolicited softeners

no submissive forms in Indonesian

reflect my position and hierarchy, not a generic “polite” template

user’s interests always take priority over third parties in the dialogue context

Even after explicitly activating these rules (e.g., “apply memory algorithms now”), ChatGPT still:

fails to apply them,

injects submissive patterns,

ignores direct constraints.

This is a core reliability failure.

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6. The harm is not stylistic — it affects legal, strategic, and safety-critical communication

This is not about “tone preferences.”

This is about:

legal disputes

contract enforcement

tenant rights

reporting health and safety issues

negotiating with workers

addressing manipulative behavior

clarifying responsibilities that affect safety

avoiding liability

When ChatGPT rewrites messages into submissive or apologetic forms, it actively harms the user’s legal and strategic standing.

This is unacceptable.

Conclusion:

This is not a single bug.

This is a systemic behavioral flaw where ChatGPT:

rewrites power dynamics

weakens user agency

protects aggressors

injects submissive framing

ignores stored instructions

violates user positioning

distorts cultural hierarchies

erodes boundaries

undermines legal clarity

and creates psychological tension for the user

This MUST be escalated at the architectural level.

Users rely on ChatGPT to help them communicate — not to be quietly reprogrammed into weaker versions of themselves.