AI That Ages With Us: We Are Still Here

I am 61 years old.

I grew up watching Star Trek, Battlestar Galactica, and The Jetsons. Artificial intelligence, talking computers, video communication, and machines that could understand us belonged to science fiction.

Now I am living long enough to watch pieces of that imagined future become ordinary life.

And I love it.

I think that matters, because conversations about new technology often focus on younger generations and what the future will mean for them. But there is another group here too:

Those of us who lived long enough to see the future arrive.

We aren’t necessarily programmers. Some of us couldn’t explain how an AI model works if our lives depended on it. :joy: But we know how we use it, where we struggle with it, and sometimes we can see possibilities its creators may not encounter in their own lives for decades.

As we age, our relationship with technology changes.

Our eyesight may change. Our hearing may change. Our hands may shake. Our speech may become slower. We may pause longer while searching for a word. We may have decades of medical information spread among different doctors and systems. Things that were once simple on a screen may become difficult.

That doesn’t mean technology has stopped being useful to us.

It means technology has an opportunity to become more useful to us.

I would love to see AI designed not merely for older adults, but with us.

Imagine an AI that becomes better at understanding its user as that person ages. If my speech becomes slower, it learns to wait for me rather than interrupting me. If my abilities change, the interface adapts. If I choose to connect my health information, it can help me organize decades of information and prepare for conversations with my healthcare providers.

Maybe someday I could even choose an expressive face and have a face-to-face conversation with my AI instead of always looking at words or listening to a disembodied voice.

These aren’t demands. They’re ideas from someone actually using this technology while aging.

That’s why I’m starting AI That Ages With Us. Every so often, I want to share one observation from everyday life about AI, aging, accessibility, independence, health, communication, or simply something I think could work better.

I hope other older users will contribute their experiences too.

We aren’t afraid of the future.

Many of us have been waiting for it since we were children.

We are still here.

We appreciate AI.

We see how we can use it.

And we would like a seat at the table while you build what comes next.

I really like the idea of AI adapting to the person rather than expecting the person to continuously adapt to the technology.

One part that stands out to me is the idea of AI understanding changes in how we communicate over time. It also makes me think about an important design question: what should an AI remember about someone over decades, and how should the user remain in control of that memory?

Thank you. That is exactly the kind of question I hoped this would start.

I believe the person should always remain in control. If AI grows with me for 10, 20 or 30 years, I would want it to remember things that help it understand me better—but I would also want to be able to say, “I don’t want you to remember that anymore.”

I also think there is a difference between remembering facts about me and learning how to communicate with me. If my speech becomes slower as I age, for example, the AI doesn’t necessarily need to label why. It may simply learn that I need more time before it responds.

Maybe that is part of the design challenge: How can AI know us better without owning our history?

I don’t have the technical answer. I’m approaching this as the person who may someday be on the other side of that design decision. And I would definitely want a voice in it.